Love is the most wonderful feeling. It is so pristine in itself that it takes your mind to the seventh heaven. Life seems absolutely perfect and you wish that this may never change. But, with time, they keep changing. After a while, the sheen of the affection loses its charm and life may become that pill whose sugar coat is gone. The only thing you can do is to keep that insipid pill in your life and walk on. But, sooner than the latter, such a lacklustre relationship may cause you more trouble than not. It would be disheartening for both persons in the relationship to disassociate themselves from repair job as they would seek to redeem their estranged love life to return. This would only deteriorate the chaos. Even if one of the people gets on with the repair job, without the active support from the other person in the relationship, the entire effort may go in for a tail spin and you may end up in the middle of nowhere. This would further strain the relationship and it may convert into an abusive relationship. Once this stage of the relationship makes its appearance, it is time to call it a day.

But how can you identify those signs that may take the form of an abuse in your relationship? Even though it is a very subjective interpretation of the situation, what is common in an abusive relationship are signs like emotional withholding, excessive jealousy, sexual coercion, threats, physical violence, requiem of intimacy, verbal abuse and any other artificial situation that makes you feel bamboozled about the true intent of your partner. The fact is that it is not necessary that only physical abuse that is intended to cause you bodily harm qualify to be an abuse. What is more insidious is the emotional abuse that cause severe mental trauma. Although it may not be superficial, it would make its presence felt in the way you talk, the way you behave and virtually in your all round personality.

Any emotional abuse is so callous in its impacts that even after all the turbulent times are over; it may still linger on your mind and haunt your self esteem. Although it is very hard to point out and prove, you can always use your mind and heart to identify and demarcate that thin line between love and abuse. If your partner is jealous of you for any reason, becomes too bossy and demanding and even become too possessive with you, you can hunch the fact that everything is not well. Eventually, the discomfort may lead to your sexual life and it may be never be smooth. The sudden fit of rage, blaming you for the emotional state of your relationship, accusing you of infidelity and unfaithfulness, humiliating jokes at your family and life in front of others, threatening to harm you and your children with a weapon, discouraging you to be social and your relationship with your friends and family, constantly criticising you and preventing you from working are some of the many signs of an abusive relationship. In case, these signs have been predominant in your relationship, it is time to sit down and give it a pragmatic look. You can always seek professional help if you have failed to rectify it personally. Let the world change for the better.